Parenting is truly the hardest job in the world. Unfortunately, no one learns how to be a parent until they are faced with the task. However, it will be much easier on both the parents and the children if parents are consistent from the outset.
Inconsistency confuses children. If they are allowed to break the rules one day without consequence, yet are punished for the next infraction, confusion and resentment are the natural results. Whether you are parenting toddlers or teenagers, deciding ahead of time which consequences will follow certain behaviors and then following through will make the parenting process much easier.
It is never too late to start being consistent. You can sit down with your child or children and discuss the new rules with them. Let them know ahead of time what to expect. Not only does this make for a more peaceful household, but it gives the child a certain amount of power. If they know the consequences of certain behaviors ahead of time, they get to choose the result.
Parental consistency isn’t just about punishing bad behavior. It also works to enforce good behavior. Children who understand that they get free time after their rooms are cleaned are much more likely to do their chores. It works the same for every situation.
Consistency is also important when it comes to bedtimes and mealtimes. Children who know that their bedtime is at 9 pm every night expect this and are less likely to fuss when it is time to go to bed. While most children will attempt to test the boundaries from time to time, parents who are consistent spend far less time arguing with their children about daily activities and behaviors.
If consistency hasn’t been your strong suit, start today to change this dynamic. You will be amazed at the changes in your children and in your household.